Wednesday, August 09, 2006

On the Down Side

I'm not blogging much because August has hit with a vengeance. We are making sure backpacks are adequately filled with well-labeled school supplies, that jeans and shirts aren't too stained or too holey or too short, that forms are filled out and returned. The season of school is upon us. Add to that the season of football and a quickly approaching trip back East for a family reunion and the busyness never ends. And biggest of all, the news that my husband is moving out next week. It's been a long time coming, but my kids were completely blindsided. The reality hits like a tsunami, even when I've been steeling myself for years. Crazy Aunt Purl's words sound familiar. Why haven't I mentioned it before? Pick a reason: I come from New England stock (enough said); it's humiliating; I've tried to treat him the way I'd like to be treated. Next steps? Only God knows, but I'm watching out for my kids, trying to get some time to think, and praying--lots of that. On the up side? There's been lots of knitting. I just haven't taken any pictures of it. Oh, and lots of frogging. Even fewer pictures of that. All that to say this: blogging will be spotty to partly nonexistant in August as we travel (not sure if I'll have internet), start school and I learn to live on a much tighter budget. I'll be back though. You can't keep a redhead down.


Blogger amanda said...

So sorry to hear this Lorinda. I think no matter how much you prepare it is always difficult especially with kids involved. I'll keep you all in my prayers!

8/09/2006 08:31:00 AM  
Blogger Jaimi said...

I am so sorry too...I got separated six years ago "out of the blue" as shocked every one at the time, maybe even me. But, after some therapy (highly recommended) and a lot of time ("heals all wounds" is a bunch of crap, but it does soften them somehow) my two little boys and I have come through it okay.

In the end, it is better for everyone this way. I found a great guy four years ago who loves my two boys like his own and means it when he says it. We've been married for three years and have a two year old little boy of our own.

Be good to you for awhile...embrace being alone as as time to figure out who you are, and then your life will just, go on--however its meant to.

8/09/2006 09:26:00 AM  
Blogger Lisa said...

I'm speachless. So, so sorry that you and the kids are having to go through this mess, but I'm enough of a realist to understand that often this is the best thing for everyone involved---not the easiest, but the best.

Sending hugs your way!

8/09/2006 10:43:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I hope you get my package soon. Maybe it'll cheer you up.


8/09/2006 11:14:00 AM  
Blogger Robin said...

I'm sorry to hear about that, Lorinda. Sending good thoughts to you and your kids....

8/09/2006 11:21:00 AM  
Blogger Miriam said...

Good luck with all that's going on. I assume it's probably for the best that he's moving out, but as you say, it's more important to take care of your kids in this situation.


8/09/2006 11:40:00 AM  
Blogger Dorothy said...

I'm so sorry for you and your family right now.

I hope the kids and you don't go through too rough of a time.

Sending prayers and thoughts your way.

Hugs too.

8/09/2006 01:14:00 PM  
Blogger Marji said...

hugs GF. Can I say "been there done that"? Time doesn't heal, therapy and forgiveness do. Tough all around, even if you were expecting it and even maybe hoping for it. God Bless you and the kids.

8/09/2006 04:39:00 PM  
Blogger cecily said...

sending love. lots of it, especially after all the wonderful support you've given me this summer, when i've dealt with my own issues.

feel free to email me any time. :)

8/09/2006 05:23:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to hear this news. I hope that you can take some time for yourself over the next few.....however long it takes. As important as your kids are, you must take care of yourself to be your best for them too.
The good part about being from New Englad stock is that we're tough. I know you're going to be great.
Sending lots of love.....

8/09/2006 08:44:00 PM  
Anonymous Ellen said...

Lorinda, I just read your post (long day without an internet connection until evening)--so sorry to hear this news. Even if you "saw it coming," it's still incredibly difficult when it actually happens. These things are always so complicated and so overwhelming.

You are in my thoughts.

Take care of yourself and give your kids a hug for me.

8/09/2006 09:36:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh, enjoy Maine! I am so jealous, even though I've already been there this summer.
It's now U. of Southern Maine. UM is now the Orono campus, which is where I went. My mum graduated from USM in 1993.
Don't forget to breathe deeply, especially while you're in Maine. I find it helps!

8/09/2006 10:32:00 PM  
Blogger Kathy said...

So sorry to hear about your husband moving out.

I was blindsided by a divorce almost 2 years ago. I've come out on the other side and you will too.

8/09/2006 10:43:00 PM  
Anonymous Susan said...

Thinking of you, Lorinda! Call me when you get back. S.N.

8/09/2006 10:50:00 PM  
Anonymous laurie said...

I never thought I would be at a place to say this, but you do come out the other end of this thing alive.

And also, you may go a little crazy in between now and then. But just know you absolutely definitely will make it.

I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you.

8/11/2006 01:57:00 PM  
Blogger JulieFrick said...

Oh, Lorinda! I haven't had much blog time either, lately, so please excuse the late contact here after your beautiful stitch markers arrived the other day. I have no such sparkly things in my bag o' tricks, and they are truly a luxury item and well appreciated. I am sorry that your family is going through a tough time. You'll be in my thoughts- your children as well.

8/22/2006 06:16:00 AM  

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